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anxiety.

Or, you know, you could just stop saying sorry.

I take it you don’t have anxiety.

You can’t “just stop saying sorry”. You do something, something so little, like accidentally bump into someone. You feel horrible about it. Your brain starts panicking and you have trouble trying to breathe. You stutter an apology. They say it’s okay, but you accidentally do it again, and you apologize again. They just say “Aha, you can stop saying sorry.” And you feel horrible that you’ve probably made them angry or upset, so you mutter out an apology for the third stupid time, and they just say to stop saying sorry. Stop saying sorry. 

You can’t just tell someone to stop saying you’re sorry.

I want that comment on flyers so I can hang them in my school

reblogging this one for the GOOD commentary.

If you’re going to tell someone to stop saying sorry say, “You don’t have to apologize to me.” and smile. If they say sorry again just say, “You’re fine.” and keep smiling and move on. The faster the situation is resolved the faster the person with anxiety can start to calm down. Please don’t get angry at someone for saying sorry, sometimes that’s all the person feels like they can do.

I’ve always been really bad about this and as a kid I’d always do it around my parents and my mom would always say “STOP SAYING YOURE SORRY.” thank you to the helpful comment.

What I wish some people would comprehend better is that, we just want to apologize because we think it’s a natural thing to do, but then you hear “Stop saying you’re sorry!” and you can feel anger in the voice. You feel bad because you realize you disappointed someone again for not being able to function properly, for having low self-esteem and confidence from your past experiences in life. You failed again, you made someone annoyed at you again when you meant no harm. You feel like shit again. It’s a vicious cycle. When you’re depressed and when you have anxiety, you’re in these vicious cycles, and it’s so hard to get out of them. Because people want to avoid you, because people gets easily annoyed by the way you are even though you try your hardest to be okay, to act like you’re okay so other people won’t feel bad being around you… But they’re mad, or upset and you end up feeling even guiltier than you already were. It’s a never ending cycle. And let me tell you, it takes a lot of mental strength and time to get out of this loop.

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"Curing AIDS? Shit, that’s like Cadillac making a car that lasts for 50 years. And you know they can do it, but they ain’t going to do nothing that fucking dumb. Shit, they got metal on the Space Shuttle that can go around the Moon and withstand  temperatures of up to 20,000 degrees, you mean to tell me you don’t think they can make an El Dorado with a fuckin’ bumper that don’t fall off?"

- Chris Rock (“Bigger and Blacker”, 1999)

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cultureunseen:

Charda Gregory abducted, humiliated, violated, restrained, scalped and tortured. 
If this were reversed, with black police officers who were sworn to uphold peace and justice but instead were documented victimizing a white woman (who was already a victim), this news would have trumped the Olympics!

Truncated version: drugged at a party, abducted to a motel, wakes up during unwanted sexual violation in a motel room full of strangers, fights like hell to escape, motel employee calls the authorities, she gets arrested for destroying motel property and it just gets worst from there.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IoBLolqUaNg 

Every officer who participated in it and even those who witnessed it and did nothing should be punished but instead they just fired the woman?
No rape kit, no police report on the people inside the motel room, no investigation of her claims, no accountability for missing motel entry records, no video from the motel but she gets detained for fourteen days?

(Btw, when did your tax dollars begin purchasing Abu Ghraib type water boarding chairs?)

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lawliwa:

"I want to share a cautionary tale with you guys. I make light of it, but it’s a very serious issue we don’t really think about until it’s too late. Until this year, I actually really never cared about getting accurate eye colors for my cosplays. I’ve been wearing prescription lenses since around 2003. But this year I decided to start getting some SFX contact lenses. I even got a contact lens sponsorship that I abused. However. I thoroughly regret it now. I suffered a huge injury all because I didn’t get contact lenses from my doctor. In cosplay, it’s very tempting to buy from these SFX contact sellers because it’s convenient and it’s relatively more cost friendly. (I say relatively because the medical bills from this injury have amounted to many times more than the costs I’ve spent on lenses.) After wearing some lenses on Saturday of SDCC, my eye suffered a 90% corneal abrasion. That number is very high and abnormal for just a contact lens. It’s usually from a more violent trauma. At first, the guess was that I was wearing the wrong size. (The diameter isn’t the only important measurement when getting properly fitted lenses.) I saw 4 different doctors and after some time it was determined that it was the quality of the lenses. My lens provided almost no oxygen to my eye, it melded, and when I took out my lens, it took out 90% of my cornea with it. They were concerned that the damage was so severe I might actually go blind from it.
It was extremely painful and ugly and just awful. At one point I was trying so hard to force myself not to cry and scream because it hurt so bad but the doctors didn’t know what was wrong with me and that was so frustrating.
I couldn’t even open my right eye, because it hurt to squeeze my left eye even the slightest bit. It took over a week and a half to heal the abrasion. Now I’m left with scarring and clouding which is causing blindness. I’m legally blind in my left eye right now which is to say I can “see” but it’s beyond blurry. If I stay this way, it means this eye will never have a prescription that will provide me with any visual accuracy in that eye. I’ve been upgraded to steroids. The clouding has reduced a very low percentage, but I haven’t regained any of my vision. The doctors are hopeful, but it’s not certain I’ll regain my vision. The process takes over a month to heal. Some people have it worse from this injury and lose ALL eyesight. I’m very lucky.

So moral of this story? I really hope I motivate at least one cosplayer never to order contact lenses from sources outside of your optometrist or websites that are recommended by/require prescriptions from optometrists. I know colored contacts are so tempting for accuracy, and a fun look, but if they do not come from trusted sources, you are just risking your safety and health for cheap, harmful quality.

This photo is from last Thursday and Friday. After a whole week I was finally able to open my eye.

Something I didn’t know is that purchasing contact lenses outside of your doctor is actually ILLEGAL in some states. It’s illegal in California. Do some research on your states laws before you buy them too!

*** I’m seeing these comments and getting messages with a bunch of incorrect facts.***

- Corneal abrasions are NOT rare. Corneal abrasions from contact lenses are the top reason for most corneal abrasions. Not all cases are as extreme as mine. And mine wasn’t even the most extreme case.

- Some people said I would’ve felt it immediately and taken my contact lens out. FALSE. I wore my contact lenses for close to 8 hours with out a single sign of pain or discomfort. The injury occurred when I was taking my lenses out.

- This was NOT the first time I wore SFX lenses. And this was NOT the first time I wore contact lenses. I’ve been wearing lenses for 10 years.

- This was NOT a matter of incorrect sizing, but a matter of QUALITY OF PRODUCT. I was using Pinky Paradise lenses. If you’ve been using Pinky Paradise, good for you. So was I. If you want to continue to use them, good. for. you. I am merely sharing my story as it could happen to ANY ONE even if they’ve been wearing a certain brand for a long time, LIKE ME.
I am choosing not to risk quality of product to save a few bucks any more. I don’t even know if I’ll regain vision in my eye so saving $10 and a few doctors visit was NOT worth it to me.”

I haven’t seen this around tumblr yet but knowing that pinkyparadise is a popular contact lens provider for the cosplay community, I had to share this here. Please, please be careful when it comes to contact lenses you guys.

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Boost this like crazy.

I know it might seem “frustrating” if a company won’t take your money without a current prescription- been there done that.  But trust me- you do NOT want to mess around with medical devices. Contact lenses, like prescription medicine, should only be used WITH a prescription specific to you.

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